I’m so glad there is an advice column now - there is something which has been worrying me for a long time and I have had no one to consult until now.

A family member has become so engrossed in a video game that he excludes nearly everything else, even the family he once loved. Before The Game, he was a cheerful and cooperative member of the household; now, he spends all his time in the basement, the glow of the monitor illuminating his pale face and long hair. Yes, even his hygiene has reached a new low since the arrival of The Game. He is surly and refuses to pause The Game to talk to the people he once loved. I am very concerned. Not only do I miss his company, but I fear he is inhabiting a world in which he will never find true happiness. How can I suggest he cut back or stop playing The Game in a way to which he will be receptive? I fear that he will not stop playing long enough to hear my concerns, and that even if he did, The Game has such a hold on him that he may be lost forever. Please help, I am greatly appreciative.

I need advice.

I want to encourage more social gatherings with my company. but for whatever reason, these people don’t want to go rockclimbing, play squash, or try Scuba. how can I approach my professional friends and try to bring them into my more active social community?

I wish to increase my will power. What do you recommend?